March is women’s month. It is the month in which a day was picked and dedicated to focusing, discussion, conversing and talking about gender equality, its impact in society and how it can be achieved. What do you know about the International Women’s Day celebration that is observed globally? How did it come to being? Why was it considered important enough to be mandated by the UN?
Follow me as we talk a walk down memory lane.
March 8th is celebrated as International Women’s Day all over the world. It is a day specifically set aside to celebrate the achievements, challenges, and struggles of women and an opportunity to reflect on, and further the push towards gender parity.
On 8th March 1908, 15,000 women marched in New York city to demand for shorter work hours, better pay and women’s right to vote. The socialist party of America marked the anniversary of the march and declared it the first international women’s day a year later.
In 1910 Clara Zetkin addressed the International Conference of Working Women in Copenhagen suggesting that the event be made international. All 100 women in attendance unanimously supported the idea.
The first globally recognized International Women’s Day was celebrated in Austria, Denmark, Germany, Switzerland, and the United States in 1911.
It remained a stand-alone event until 1975, when the United Nations began marking the day and organizing celebrations.
And in 1996 the UN began issuing a theme for each year’s celebration, the first of which was “Celebrating the past, Planning for the Future”.And subsequently each year’s celebration had a theme. For example, the theme for IWD 2018 was ‘I am Generation Equality’. 2019 was Think equal, build smart & innovate for change”. 2020 was “I am Generation Equality: Realizing Women’s Rights”. 2021 was chose to challenge and 2022 ‘Gender equality today for a sustainable tomorrow.” #Break the Bias’
WHAT IS BIAS?
Bias is the inclination or prejudice for or against one person or group, especially in a way considered to be unfair’ Bias, whether deliberate or unconscious, makes it difficult for women to move ahead much less make progress.
However, being aware that this bias exists isn’t enough to mitigate it, action is needed to level the playing field. And that is why this year’s IWD focus is advocating for actively calling out gender bias, discrimination and stereotype each time you see or experience it.
And this, is a collective responsibility.
What are you doing to #breakthebias that women have suffered for centuries?
What are you doing differently?
Welcome to Honest Discussions with Jiddare.
My name is Hawwah otherwise known as Jiddare.
I am a multimedia Journalist, feminist and social enterprenuer.
Aside from my paid job as a radio journalist, I do a number of things including gender advocacy, media and event consulting. I write a weekly column with http://www.blueprint.ng, and vlogger @ https://www.youtube.com/c/HonestDiscussionswithJiddare001 and a lot of voluntary community work.
I am also the publisher of the online gender advocacy publication http://www.sheroes.ng
Jiddare.com is an upgrade of my blog from http://www.dladyofmysteries.blogspot.com.
This is with the intent of building it turning it my private and personal journal.
Where I document my wins, losses, life journey, challenges and opinions.
Welcome to the Discussion.
This is a rant.
It is common knowledge that every society is discriminatory to its women folks; some worse than the others.
Every aspect of women’s lives, biology and identity is dictated by someone else, has been twisted and used against us in different ways, especially in some parts of the world.
In my society, women’s plight is inconceivable. A fertile woman will be scorned because she conceives and gives birth easily, a barren one will be subjected to the same vile for being barren.
A young woman will be denied education and opportunities, and advised to get married, a married women will be denied same for being married.
An adult woman will be told she is old and expired, because ‘who would want her now’?
7 years ago, I was expressly told that my life is over. Because I am a divorced mother of 5.
Today, 7 years down the line, I have never felt more alive, viable and inspired to grow into the best version of me.
I have always known that women have always get the short end of the stick every blessed time, the events in the past 7 years only proved it.
But despite it all, and the ‘ageism’ that continuously gets flaunted in our face (lols), we shall not only overcome, but also #breakthebias.
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Applications are now open for the Singapore International Graduate Award for 2023 intake. This fully-funded scholarship is offered for international students who did not get a chance to study in Singapore before. It is a great opportunity for students who want to pursue PhD abroad. SINGA scholarship will cover all the tuition fees and accommodation. You will be studying in A*STAR Research Institutes, NTU, NUS or SUTD and all the training will be carried out in English.
Applications are open for the most-awaited scholarship “Australia Awards Scholarships.” It is a fully-funded scholarship program offered by the Australian government. It is also known as the Australian government scholarship. The scholarship is open for the students of Asia, the Middle East, Africa, and the Pacific to study undergraduate and postgraduate degree programs in top Australian universities.
Scholarships in Australia offer a unique opportunity to study in the top Universities in Australia, so all eligible students can apply for this scholarship program if they want to study master’s program and MPhil abroad. As the scholarship is fully funded covering full tuition fee, hefty amount of stipend and health insurance.
Harvard University Free Online Courses 2022
Harvard University has opened the application period to their free online courses which have recently gone live. Teachers and students can now take full advantage of Harvard University Free Online Courses. This is an amazing and golden opportunity for absolutely free.
The free online courses for national and international students at Harvard University are diverse when it comes to the fields these courses cover. These short online courses encompass almost every field and every genre of human knowledge either it is science, humanities, literature, history, or any known subject.
Scholarships at Simon Fraser University to study an undergraduate degree in Canada 2021 (funded)
Apply now for scholarships at Simon Fraser University to study a bachelor’s degree in Canada 2021 (fully funded) for international students from all over the world.
Founded in 1962, Simon Fraser University is public research university in British Columbia, Canada. It has three campuses offering undergraduate, teacher education and postgraduate programs.
The university provides opportunities for a diverse range of students.
Details of the scholarships at Simon Fraser University:
- Application deadline: Open all the year.
- Host University: Simon Fraser University.
- Section: All Sections.
- Scholarship Level: Undergraduate scholarships.
- Awards: Educational Fund and Living Allowance.
- Number of scholarships: Unspecified
- Applying Mode: Online.
- Nationality: Local and International.
- The award can be taken in Canada.
Queen Elizabeth Commonwealth Scholarship 2022-2023 is a fully-funded master’s scholarship for international students. This scholarship provides full tuition fees, living allowance, return tickets, an arrival allowance, and a research grant.
Those are fully-funded scholarships are provided to international students from all over the world who have the potential to develop practical skills and are eager to study a two-year master’s Program in a middle-income or low-income Commonwealth country but are unable to study in their hometown due to financial and other constraints.
Princess Nourah University Scholarship 2022-2023 in Saudi Arabia Opens for International Students.
The Princess Nourah University Scholarship is now open for international students! This scholarship offers full tuition coverage for the duration of your program, making it the perfect opportunity to study in Saudi Arabia. Princess Nourah Bint Abdulrahman University is one of the most prestigious universities in Saudi Arabia, but the process for applying and securing a scholarship is very competitive.
If you’re an international student looking to study in Saudi Arabia, the Princess Nourah University Scholarship is the best opportunity you’ll find. The scholarship is open to students from all nationalities, and it offers full tuition coverage for the duration of your program.
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The fully-funded Global Korea Scholarships 2022-2023 session is now accepting online applications from international students under BS, MS, and doctoral degree programs. There is No Application Fee Required for the GKS Scholarship.
This GKS scholarship provides an undergraduate or bachelor’s degree and associate degree to all the students who apply and got selected for this scholarship program. The Global Korea Scholarship program includes almost all universities in South Korea.
- To be eligible for Korean Government’s Global Korea Scholarship program, you are expected to meet the following conditions:
- Both an applicant and his/her parents must be citizens of their country of origin.
- Applicants should not hold Korean citizenship.
- Applicants should have adequate health, both mentally and physically, to stay in a foreign country for a long time.
- Should be under 25 years of age at the date of entrance. (Undergraduate)
- Should be under 40 years of age at the date of entrance. (Graduate)
- Have finished or be scheduled to finish formal education of all elementary, middle, high school courses by the date of arrival. (Undergraduate)
- Possess a grade point average (G.P.A.) above 80% from the last educational institution attended.
- Hold a bachelor’s degree or a Master’s degree by the date of arrival. (Graduate)
- Applicants who have previously achieved in any undergraduate program, master’s program, or doctoral program in Korea cannot apply for this program.
Apply here: Study in Korea | run by Korean Government
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Journalists in Nigeria especially those in Government employment have very little remuneration and development opportunities.
However, there are tons of opportunities for career and self development for journalist on a global level, which they can benefit from.
Here are some of them from the International Journalists Network.
- Nigerian Journalism Students are invited to participate in an online training on environmental crimes by the I-79 Media Consults. The training project Rewriting the Narratives of Environmental Crimes in Nigeria stems from the idea that there is the need to intensify efforts in mainstreaming reports about environmental crimes, climate change and biodiversity.
Twenty selected journalists will attend a three-day online training on the theme “Environmental Crime Reporting in Southern Nigeria: Issues and Perspectives,” March 17 to 19.
After the training, each participant will be supported with small grants to carry out reporting projects at their campuses and in their local communities. The deadline is March 5.
2. African Women in Media (AWiM) is an organisation that seeks to positively impact the way media functions in relation to women. AWiM is accepting pitches for its Environment Reporting Program 2022 from women journalists.
Pitches should propose in-depth stories that explore environmental solutions with a focus on any of the 12 elements of the African Green Stimulus Program. Journalists could also highlight the impact of the COVID-19 pandemic on ecosystems, biodiversity, conservation, waste management and other issues related to the broader ecological challenges in Africa which affect women.
Journalists will receive free training, editorial coaching and US$100 towards their stories.
3. Rory Peck Trust (RPT), in partnership with Meta, is offering trauma and resilience workshops for freelance journalists. The workshops are a part of the RPT Resilience Programme and will be delivered by Dart Centre Europe.
The workshops provide freelance journalists with training so they can cover traumatic events ethically and safely and be prepared for any possible psychological impact.
Each workshop offers two webinars, both two hours in length, led by specialized journalist trainers.
The workshops will be held in English, Arabic, French, Russian and Spanish and the English workshop will be held March 15 and 17.
A US$10 deposit is required to secure a spot. The deposit will be refunded upon completion of a post-workshop feedback form.
4. Filmmakers from around the world are invited to submit their work to this film festival.
The Baikal International Film Festival “People and Environment,” founded by the Russian Filmmakers’ Union, will take place Sept. 22 to 26 in Irkutsk, Russia.
The festival accepts entries on the relationship between humans and nature and includes categories for international documentary and popular science films.
Entries must be full-length or short films created not earlier than 2020.
Entries not in English must include English subtitles.
The winners will receive cash prizes, trophies and diplomas. The grand prix winner will receive RUB200,000 (US$ 2,339)
Participation is free and deadline is April 15.
5. The Lorenzo Natali Journalism Prize, sponsored by the European Commission, recognizes excellence in written, radio and broadcast journalism on the theme of development, democracy and human rights around the world.
This year’s contest should relate to issues of inequality, poverty eradication, sustainable development, environment, biodiversity, climate action, digital (gap, connectivity, e-governance, entrepreneurship), jobs and employment, education and skills development, migration, healthcare (access, assistance), and peace, democracy and human rights.
The contest has three categories: a Grand Prize, for journalists whose media headquarters is located in a partner country of the EU; Europe Prize, for journalists whose media is in one of the countries of the European Union; and Best Emerging Journalist Prize, for journalists under 30 in any partner country as well as in the EU Member States.
Works must have been published or broadcast between March 10, 2021 and March 9, 2022.
Entries are accepted in all languages but should include a translation in English, French or Spanish if they are not written in one of these languages.
The winners in each category will receive EUR10,000 (US$11,855).
The deadline is March 31.
The internet has demystified and broken down barriers to resources, opportunities, knowledge and learning. However, I am concerned about the continued lack of awareness and utilizing of these opportunities by many young especially people.
Every week, I would be re-publishing opportunities and resources for personal, career, academic and community development on my blog http://www.jiddare.com in order that it may reach more people who may benefit from the pool of education, career and knowledge opportunities that exist.
Here are this weeks opportunities.
- Are you looking to transition into tech but don’t know how to get your foot in? Are you curious about tech sales? Register for this webinar, where you will learn the tech sales landscape and get actionable advice on how to approach this role. bit.ly/aftechsales
2. Apply for the World Bank Youth Summit Competition 2022 – Fully Funded. The Youth Summit pitch competition aims to attract innovative and interactive youth who are motivated and eager to share problem-solving ideas.
Pitches must be based on three pillars of development, i.e., social, environmental and economic development. Make sure your project continues to “unlock the power of inclusion for equitable growth.”
The pitch that will encourage any of the following will be preferred:
- Social Inclusion: equitable growth (Education, Health, Gender, Social Safety)
- Environmental Inclusion: climate change Mitigation, Adaptation, Climate Smart Technologies
- Economic Inclusion: access to financial Services, Financial Decision-Making, sustainable Livelihoods and employment, Private Capital Mobilization
Application link: https://tinyurl.com/mr4cdnwc
Financial coverage: Fully Funded💰
Eligible Regions: Anyone can apply
Deadline: March 4, 2022
•The finalists will have a chance to get in touch with experts and work on solving global issues.
•They will be connected to private and public sector leaders from environmental, social and economic landscapes.
•Mentoring from professionals will be offered.
•Participants may receive access Youth Summit Competition Alumni Network.
•The World Bank Group summit program is an opportunity to pitch solution providing ideas to potential investors.
•The travel costs of the finalists will be covered.
•Accommodation for 3 days will be covered.
3. The Thompson Reuters paid internship 2022 is now open for applications.
Recent Marketing graduate and undergraduate students worldwide are invited to apply for the 3 months Thomson Reuters paid for international students. The application process opens 3 times every year, in January, May, and September.
All the marketing students having the potential to bring the customers to the stores are highly encouraged to apply for the Thomson Reuters internship. The Marketing Internship is a paid position that will expose you to our products, marketing strategies, consumer insights, and other aspects of the company. The Thomson Reuters paid internship program 2022 is a good opportunity to step into professional life and gain practical experience working in a professional environment.
Application link: https://tinyurl.com/2p8rpd22
Financial coverage: Full
•Internees will get to work in a renowned organization.
•It is a paid internship, internees will receive competitive pay, company-designated holidays, and the internees can be hired as employees based on their performance.
•Internees will get on-the-job mentoring from caring mentors and managers will help them grow personally and professionally.
•This paid internship is offered at offices located in different areas and countries.
4. Applications are open for the Netherlands Government Scholarship 2022 known as the Orange Knowledge Program. This fully-funded scholarship program aims to gather intellectual students from around the world to enable development. The scholarships are open for short courses on urban management or development and master’s degree programs.
The OKP will enhance your skills and give you visible personal and professional growth. The duration of Netherland government scholarship OKP for short courses is 3 weeks to 3 months, while the duration for master program is 12 months to 24 months.
Application link: https://tinyurl.com/57ajumby
Financial coverage: Fully Funded
Deadline: October 1, 2022Benefits :
Netherlands government scholarship orange knowledge program will provide the following benefits:•The tuition fee will be covered.
•The Visa fee will be covered.
•The host will provide living expenses.
•Health insurance will be provided.
•Traveling costs will be covered.
Last week, I turned 46. Surprisingly, I do not feel an inch close to 46, fact is, I do not for once feel aged at all; except when I want to run lols
Over the years, I have come to understand the need and significance of marking my birthday no matter how little. I started with acknowledging my children’s birthdays by doing something to make them feel special and happy on that day even though I hardly succeed in doing that all the time. For the second time in my life, I had grand plans for how I would mark my 46th birthday, in an epic way, it is worth marking. I am fabulous at 46, alive, kicking, healthy and grateful. In those years, I have lost friends, family, loved ones, those I am older than and those I am younger than. I have survived things I still wonder how I survived them; why the heck wont I mark 46?
If you ever take the time to look back on your life and see how far you have come, the success you have had, the failures, the joys and sorrows, the wins, and the losses, what you survived, are surviving and still pushing through; I am sure you will agree with me that every day, not just your birthday is worth making memories of. But since we cannot afford to be making merry every day, our birthdays are enough to make merry and be thankful all over again.
Celebrating birthdays is not a part of the northern culture, many people believe it is unnecessary ‘bid’ah’ (innovation). Even though the number of people beginning to celebrate birthdays continues to increase, my decision to mark my birthday and my children’s may likely differ with that of a lot of people.
To some people, birthdays are important because it makes them feel special due to the attention, love and presents their loved ones shower on them. But for me, it is more about realizing the fact that at that exact same time many years ago, something phenomenal happened in this world. ME. Yes, I happened.
Now take a look at it this way, in developed societies where all data and information about everybody is captured in a single data base, the only information they will ask in order to identify you in the school, train station, libraries and especially in the hospital is your date of birth. I remember ten years ago in Germany, the doctor asked me even for my parent’s date of birth; an information I have no knowledge of. Moreover, all developed countries consider babies born in their lands as citizens; that’s one of the reasons why wealthy Nigerians run over themselves to give birth to their children in the US or the UK. Now consider this, if birth dates are not important, why is it one of the easiest ways to identify you from a huge data base? Why is there citizenship by birth?
So, after pondering about these factors for a long time, I decided to be celebrating mine and my loved one’s birthdays. Even if the day comes at a time, I cannot afford a present, I call them up and sing them a birthday song.
Now back to 46, none of the grand ideas about how I wanted to mark my birthday worked out. First, the day started on a rather upsetting note. I found out that the 7-year-old vulnerable child I picked up on the streets and enrolled in school have been pulled out of school by his own father. The man was unapologetic, not remorseful and was confidently telling me that the child is too daft, does not understand book and is just wasting his time going to school. I was beyond upset, I cried internally and externally for myself, for the poor kid, and for this society. If Nigeria were a serious society, this father ought to be punished by the law, but I know that even if I took it upon myself to seek for a reprimand and ensure the child returns to school, there is no social system to ensure that happens; and at the end of the day, I may end with more than I can chew. So, I just wiped the tears off my checks and went on with my morning walk, returned home, took a bath, and prepared for my studio photo shoot. And despite the bad turn of the morning and my ‘lack-of-photogenic-sense’ I truly had a wonderful studio time, made friends, memories, and photos. But all the while, wishing there is something more I can do to ensure this boy gets back to school. But I also know that, in a country like Nigeria where there are no strong social systems, I have done all I could, with what I have. I have done my bit.
I had 2 gifts for my birthday, the gift of being alive, witnessing another turn of 365 days for me, and that of knowing that my little effort in community work is unappreciated by the one who should. And I am grateful for both.
I am not an economist, or even a financial analyst. I am a storyteller, and today I want to tell you a story about why I think the Nigerian economy is shabby and in shambles. The reason is not farfetched, it’s quite simple and basic. Efficiency. Accountability. Responsibility.
The Nigerian banking industry is said to be worth a whopping $68 as at December 2020. That means, it is worth more now. However, it remains one of the most ineffective capitalist establishments in the world. For years, lots of Nigerian banks are known for fleecing innocent customers through incessant and unnecessary account charges that have no basis. N10 here, N20 there and N50 there. The charges just keep coming indiscriminately.
However, the ‘corporate robbery’ by Nigerian banks seems to be only getting out of hand lately, as more and more Nigerians are crying out on account of failed transactions.
I thought that I was the only one who has complained about Nigerian banks, until I began to see that of others online. The numerous complaints are so mind boggling to comprehend. Why and how can such atrocious scams continue to happen within Nigerian banks, and it is still not checkmated?
Come to think of it, Banks are independent entities established with already set rules and regulations, the centre of which is to safeguard and protect their customer’s funds. However, it is doubtful if safeguarding customers funds is at the epicentre of Nigerian banks.
Yes, everyone is in business to make profit, we all know that. But profit should and never be at the expense of customers who the establishment is meant to serve.
When GTbank came on stream in February 1999 to provide individuals, businesses, private and public institutions across Africa and the United Kingdom with a broad range of market-leading financial products and services, it was the first to provide digital banking services hence had a lot of goodwill and acceptance amongst the Nigerian populace and beyond. GTbank was the first Nigerian bank to encourage its customers to embrace digital banking.
Regrettably, today GTbank has failed to secure the same digital space it created for its customers to use, thereby translating to financial losses that it has refused to take responsibility for.
After having several failed transactions with no reversal, and uncountable calls to Gtconnect without response 0700482866328
I contacted GTbank online to lodge a complaint in July 2021. Unfortunately, I got a response from a scammer instead. And by the end of several days of correspondence, the scammer succeeded in clearing out my account to zero. I reported the matter the same day, and the transaction was traced to a Lagos based paystack account by the operations staff. They gave me a timeline of 2 weeks, after which they said I’d get feedback about the missing money, well, 2 weeks turned into 45 working days, which eventually turned into 90 working days. At the expiration of each
It took me a while to understand that I am not alone in this. Several other Nigerians, especially those with small savings have unresolved issues that banks are not interested in solving much less take responsibility.
The other week, I saw a friend’s post on Facebook talking about how her brother’s bank in the UK refunded him money lost to scam. It reminded me of my own experience in 2019. I was repeating a course that required payment and was getting anxious about how I would meet up with that.
As an international student working on 20 hours of work per week, my income was not sufficient to pay for the course I was repeating, my upkeep and save for my return home. I was worried and anxious about how I was going to meet up with all the financial obligations staring me in the face in a foreign land.
I am a complete novice to the forex trading, internarial stock market and everything that concerns the financial market. But after a friend encouraged me to learn forex trading, I began researching online and that was how I met EverFx. Under the leadership and mentorship of an account officer assigned to me, I invested and traded with them for 3 months under their guidance before realizing that they are a scam investment company. But by then, I had lost my entire savings. But guess what? Less than a year later, I got refunded after full investigation and due diligence was carried out.
This is one of the several reasons why I will always respect English ssociety and its organisations. The UK is not a perfect country; far from it. But it is a society that is governed by Strong laws which are pro people. It is a society that protects the interest of its people.
Santander Bank would easily have refused to refund me, but they understood that I was just a gullible student who fell prey to an unsuspecting scam and were magnanimous enough to return my money back. It is such acts of accepting responsibility and accountability that builds a strong economy, and not large dividends and bogus declarations of profit which Nigerian banks are good at.
GTbank can very easily refund my lost funds if it wanted to, but I guess such magnanimity and honour is beyond it.
Nigerian banks and all agencies regulating it should and must do better. They need to take responsibility for the funds entrusted to them. Nigerians deserve accountability.
The previous week was a gruesome one, tales and news of needless atrocious and barbaric violence meted out on innocent children has left a lot of people heartbroken.
The story of beautiful little Hanifa who has been missing for about a month has graced out timelessness endlessly, and every time it crosses my path, it pierces deep, and hurts. I think of her, the trauma and fear she is undergoing, and I think of her mother, and the trauma, anxiety and uncertainty they are experiencing, and my heart bleeds.
Her death is not only disturbing due to the violence and inhumanity involved but distressing to think that it came at the hands of someone who had been entrusted with her care, her schoolteacher. How anyone can bring themselves to harm such a sweet innocent 5-year-old is beyond thinking.
They say the smile of a child is heaven, and that a beautiful face is pleasing to the eye. Hanifa was beautiful, innocent and her smile was like heaven, but her teacher still kidnapped, held her captive for weeks, collected ransom and murdered her. This is a man who posts nothing on his social media timeline except Qur’anic verses and religious quotations. Worst is, he was her teacher, someone he was entrusted to protect with his life if necessary. Yet, he still had the mind to go on sympathy visits to her parents while still holding her captive.
While still navigating the hurt of Hanifa’s brutal murder, I read about Daniel Ndukwe from Enugu, who killed his 3 daughters and stuffed their bodies in a deep freezer inside his compound.
The very same day, I read the story of a Cross Rivers state medical doctor who beat his wife Naomi Jolly blue black because she refused to allow him to circumcise their daughters. Now, one would think that being a medical doctor, the man would be the first to know and understand the implications of FGM, nay! it is not so, he is the one ensuring its continuity because it is a family tradition that must be upheld.
Then came the story of 11-year-old Jibril Sani Mato of Elkanemi College of Islamic Theology Maiduguri, whose throat was slashed by a senior student cutting, injuring most of his arteries, nerves, trachea and left him to die. Luckily for him, he maintained consciousness long enough for him to get to the principal’s office and slumped there. If he had not got himself to the principal’s office and died where he was assaulted, his assaulter would have gone scoot free, continued assaulting and killing others. According to reports the Elkanemi College of Islamic Theology are trying hard to suppress and kill the matter by concealing, withholding information including the name of the assaulter. Reports have it that big names and people are trying to ensure the case is dead on arrival, including the Victim’s stepfather. All we can do is to hope that influence and elitism will not be used to suffocate and kill this incident. We can only hope that Jibril’s assaulter will face the justice he deserves, because that is the only way to forestall further occurrences. However hard the powers may try to subvert justice, I am confident that with a man like Babagana Zulum as Governor, this would not go unpunished.
Chances are that if not for social media, most of these stories would have largely remained unknown. Many more atrocities continue to happen daily in different places across this country, and many will forever remain unknown due to a lot of factors, one of which is the conspiracy of silence.
The week before that, it is the kaduna woman who pimps herself, other women as well as her daughters to bandits for money. Everything about what is happening to us is all shades of wrong. For a society so steep in religiosity and religiousness, how did we get here? Just how much sad and gory news can someone take?
violence after violence, after violence.
Social physiologists and human Psychologists are likely to attest to the fact that what is happening to us today, is the result and impact of violence. Violence, in whatever form or manner rotates in a circle, circulates and eventually consumes even the most innocent and vulnerable everywhere it is being perpetrated. No doubt, our society today, is stuck in it.
The ‘cycle of violence’ is the repeated and dangerous acts of violence, which becomes a pattern associated with high emotions and doctrines of retribution, revenge or continuity, thereby ensuring the continuous repeat of the pattern of abuse or violence.
Some researchers describe the ‘cycle of violence’ as the exhibition of violent behavior learned as a child and then repeated as an adult’.
And I completely AGREE.
Firstly, we are a people raised on lots of abuse; physical and verbal. From childhood, the only language some children understand is abusive, because that is the only way their parents communicate with them.
The adage most popularly used to justify child abuse in our society is ‘spare the rod and spoil the child’. So many times, I always ask, if the rod is the only way to correct an erring child, who then corrects the adults when they err? Or is adulthood an automatic exemption from making mistakes or doing things that children get abused for? The child rights act was officially signed into law in 2003, but till date, a lot of states have not yet implemented it, much less to protect children from being abused, especially by their guardians.
They say it takes a society to raise a child, it seems pretty much that it is either this society have conspired to raise a generation of abusive, violent, and inhumane humans, or they simply looked the other way and pretend not to see while some percentage of them raised them. Either way, I am still unable to wrap my head around how we ended up raising this generation of abusive, violent, and inhumane humans.
Anyway, our chickens are finally coming home to roost. We now are saddled with an increasing rate of worrisome catastrophes. Children killing children (bullying in schools) parents killing their own children, known and trusted members of the community kidnapping and killing children; medical doctors still upholding female circumcision, the list is endless.
One thing is certain, today’s realities are an indication that the African parenting style of physical and verbal abuse is counterproductive. It has only succeeded in creating the cycle of violence that is revolving around us today, which unfortunately will continue to go round unless and until it is broken.
Stop the abuse. Break the cycle. Let the bulk stop on your table.
Be an intentional parent. Replace the inherited ‘African parenting style’ with kind, emphatic, listening and intentional parenting. If you see it happening, provide intervention and stop it.
No, we are not okay. We need intervention like yesterday. And WE are the ones to provide it.
Be INTENTIONAL, STOP the VIOLENCE.
To usher in the new year, I gave my friends a window to get to know me better.
And these were the questions they asked.
Welcome To Honest Discussion With Jiddare 2022.
This article was first published in 2013. It is rather curious that energy is one facility that has eluded Nigeria, the largest African country. Year in year out, trillions of dollars are expended on providing electricity that continues to remain elusive. Its 9 years now, yet the story basically remains the same.
Just recently, I bought my first generating set. How come I am just ‘passing my neighbor after all these years? Simply because considerate compassionate and God fearing Hubby will not have it.
‘Musulunci ya haramta ka shiga hakkin makwabcin ka’ he always says. ‘Idan muka sayi Genarator ya dame su da hayaki da kara mun shiag hakkin su kuma idan basu yafe man aba sai Allah ya saka masu’ he argues.
For over a decade, we had have to endure noise and air pollution from other people’s generating sets, one of them even put his behind my bedroom window..‘
Ba komi’ says Hubby, wata rana sai labari. So long as we can get up to 5 hours of electricity supply in a day, I don’t think we have anything to complain about’, he added in a consoling voice.
It is no secret that despite the continuous allocation and monies supposedly being expended to ensure and improve power generation, electricity in Nigeria just seems to be going from bad to worse. And so after having wasted all my one month grocery purchase for two consecutive months, I finally succeeded in convincing Hubby to buy a generator. ‘I can’t stand the noise, how are you going to cope with the pollution’ he argues. But convince him I did.
At the point of purchase, Sunny the Igbo merchant from whom the generator was bought complained about how the country and economy keeps deteriorating. ‘You see now Aunty, if to say this Government gree give us light, I go dey sell something else nah! he lamented. ‘look at all the wahala that is going on now? dem say dem wan divide country, which country dem wan divide? We that dem born here for North where dem wan make we go? Wetin go happen to us?’ he went on and on and on. We left his shop amidst lamentations and complains about the country, economy, people and Government and headed home.
That evening, as each of my neighbors put on their generating sets, I switched on mine as well, and the whole compound was engulfed in a cacophony of noise and gas emissions.
Now, I too have joined the league. I did not only pass my neighbors, I outdid them big time, after all mine is bigger and better. But then, so what? Does it make me a better person? Nah. Does it increase me in faith? No way. Does it make my life any better? Possibly, but only temporarily. Does it make me any happier? No it does not.
Owning a generating set does not put me above my neighbors or anyone else. It only put me in the league of those who contribute immensely in environmental degradation, pollution and deterioration. With each passing day, we are slowly but surely tearing the only world we have to leave our Children into pieces with our very own hands.
Just recently, I discovered that rain water is no longer sparkling clean as it used to be. Just fetch the water when it rains and what you will get is black water. No matter how long it stays and the dirt settles, it remains black. My colleague and I were talking about it one day and she is of the opinion that our sins blackened it while I say ‘POLLUTION’ with capital letters.
We have no industries, but Nigeria is a highly polluted country. We pollute the air we breathe, the water we drink and the environment we live in. Nigerians use the oldest cars in the world; and the most corrupt fuel. We also are the ones with the highest use of motorcycles as well as generating sets. We have the poorest sanitation system as well as the dirtiest and murkiest of tap water.We have so many resources from which to tap energy, including God given sunshine for solar energy, but all in vain.
That is what our Nigeria has become today, bringing out the worst in its citizens. We did never intend to own a generating set, but we had no choice. Such circumstances apply to so many people in Nigeria today. Made to do the evil and bad things they never intend under certain circumstance. Our Government as well as those in positions of authority accumulate, siphon, steal, embezzle and destroy the power project all in the bid to make money. I have heard several times of how some people will do anything to make sure that ensuring steady and available power in Nigeria remains a fairy tale.
To these people and those aspiring to be these kinds of people, remember that Nigeria is the one and only country you have to leave your Children in, it is the same Nigeria that you are party to destroying. And one day, if your Children do not curse you for that, your grand Children or your great grand Children will.
Whereas we the citizens and masses, give our own contribution in using generating sets, plenty of cars and dumping refuse anyhow without any discipline or moral.
Unfortunately for me, I have just joined that league. But what can I do?